We’ve all spent our lives listening to others tell us what it takes to be a “good” person.  Our families, our teachers, our friends, and the talking heads all have their opinions. Most of us want to be “good.”  If you’re like me you’ve spent your life trying to be “good enough.”  Good enough for love.  Good enough for happiness.  Good enough to have the life you’re “suppose to have.”

ACK! After a while some of us just quit trying.  Some of us figure we’ll never be good enough and purposely do the opposite of what everyone tells us we should be doing.  Some of us just give up and curl into depressed little balls that get swept along with the day to day life, never setting goals and never finding happiness, because let’s face it, we can never be good enough.

And then there are those of us who have woken up and figured out that we have been good enough all along.  We are loveable.  We are worthy.  We are different from what they say we should be, and that’s FABULOUS!  Because we are each unique.  We each bring a special gift into this world, and we all make a difference,

“What you do makes a difference. YOU have to decide what

kind of difference you want to make.”  – Jane Goodall 

Ah, now that’s the big question!  What difference do I want to make?  I’ve spent my life being told what I should be and what I should do.  Where do I begin to decide what I want?  Not caring what others will think is step one.  Let’s face it, most of us aren’t axe murders and we don’t really want to hurt other people, we just want to be happy.  So let’s begin with loving ourselves, right here, as we are right now.

“People who love themselves, don’t hurt other people.

The more we hate ourselves, the more we want others to suffer.”

–       Dan Pearce